A friend, M, is on good terms with everyone and goes to great lengths to maintain that equilibrium even with difficult individuals. This is a good thing and serves him well. But why ?
I think it’s a fear of confrontation; not fear of the other person but fear of his own anger, fear of what he might do or say if he was angry. He’s afraid of losing it.
He has a good degree of control, having corked his bubbling interior well. But what I find interesting is his absolute fear of losing it. In rare moments, he admits, “Yes, I have a problem with my temper”. But most of the time he denies it, “No, I am cool.”, as if he could not handle his own admission.
That said, he has taken a certain step to discipline himself. I don’t know if its working, but I hope it does.
Oh, and myself? I’m cool … Puff-Daddy cool.
